A few websites and books on parenting

April 6, 2010

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On Parenting, scheduled feeding vs demand feeding, breastfeeding etc.

As a mother, with a preference for finding natural (as possible) “methods” of raising my children, it surprised me that many women head in the opposite direction. The key word is not natural but control. The mother makes the rules. While I agree that parents do need to set a standard of behaviour and self-control for their children, I can’t understand why it seems necessary to punish newborns for their natural behaviours.

In the Christian sense, the Bible in itself does not point to any one method of parenting as being particularly correct. Where oh where did our Lord use the phrase “demand feeding”, because I’ve read the Bible cover-to-cover more than once and I haven’t seen it in there yet. It would seem that some parents ascribe to a fairly rigid set of beliefs when it comes to parenting. I must say that I fully believe that parents should have freedom in raising their kids, but some parenting methods do trouble me.

With that in mind, I wanted to share this link that a friend sent me recently. It explores controversies surrounding a particularly popular “Christian” method of parenting (a method which I do not use). My personal philosophy is that people should have a good overview of the different sides to an argument before settling on a particular position. In this case, I have heard very little in the way of informed critique of this method. Surely everything should be scrutinised.

Here’s the link:


The testimonies of people who have used this method are interesting, and would be useful reading for a Christian parent trying to assess both the pros and cons of this parenting method.

Christian books from which I have personally gleaned a lot of encouragement and positive ideas include Boundaries With Children, Bringing Up Boys, Setting the Stage for your Child’s Faith, and The Five Love Languages. (Look them up at bookstores like Word or Koorong.)

The hospital in which I gave birth promoted demand feeding, long-term breastfeeding and flexible parenting schedules. They spent a lot of time explaining the importance of flexibility in breastfeeding, as a baby’s needs change throughout infancy. Sometimes a baby will need a lot more milk, especially in hot weather and growth spurts, and this will mean more frequent feeds. As I successfully breastfed both my children for almost 2 years each, can personally attest to the effectiveness of demand feeding. When my children were very young, my philosophy was simple: I will sacrifice the time and energy necessary to raise them in a healthy, natural way as far as I am able.

Have a look at websites like the Australian Breastfeeding Association to find out more on breastfeeding.

Is there a parenting website that you use and find helpful? Feel free to mention it here in the comments. Just keep in mind that comments with two or more links will be automatically filtered as spam!


  1. I absolutely agree with you, I have recently became a mother and I do not see how any mother could control a newborn’s feeding habits. If he demands it he gets it when it comes to my 11 week old baby boy. If I dont give him food when he is hungry then I might as well get some ear plugs or a sound proof room to put him in. It would be cruel and unnatural to put him on an eating schedule in such an early age, and because he is fed when he is hungry he is the happiest baby on the block!

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  3. Thanks for sharing the links. I’m soon to be a mother and i think i have a lot of things to know since this is my first time

  4. Hi Angela, thanks for writing. I know what you mean! When my kids were young I had a lot of difficulty getting breastfeeding off to a good start and it was only through lots of little regular feeds that it really got going. I’m so glad I wasn’t introduced to the concept of parent-determined schedules for babies until after my eldest was born – because I knew there was no way that style would work for me and my family!

  5. Hi brandy0408,

    thanks for your comments! I hope that some of this information helps you. There’s so much to learn as a new mum. Just work out what’s best for you and your baby and you’ll get it eventually! I was overwhelmed when my first child was born, but after a couple of months I had relaxed into the role of motherhood. 🙂

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